- Can my flower girl be the ring bearer?
Can my flower girl be the ring bearer?
In a word, yes. It is your wedding. You are allowed to do whatever you deem appropriate.
Combining the tasks for ring bearer and flower girl makes a lot of sense. Many newly engaged couples do not know two young children to fill these roles. There is absolutely no reason to be concerned. These positions are largely symbolic, as young children cannot always live up to the expectations of the adults. Children become suddenly shy, or act out when they see a crowd. Of course, some children are not affected by these external distractions, but reducing the number of children can be beneficial if there is room for doubt.
There is no limit to what a bride can envision for her wedding day. Some brides want a small, intimate setting, with very few attendants and guests. In these cases, the flower girl might also serve as a bridesmaid, and a ring bearer as a groomsman. The most important thing is that you include the people who mean the most to you.
Families and friends can unwittingly pressure you into including people you did not have in mind. It is okay to tell them you want a small wedding party, without hurting any feelings. If you are having a huge wedding, you can likewise say you have too many as it is. The people who accompany you on the alter or on the stage should be people who are special to you. You can have as few or as many as you would like.
The cost of dresses and tuxedos may limit your bridal party, as well. Consider who will be paying for the dress or suit and decide if it is worth the cost of having both roles filled. When it comes right down to it, you need to be sure your wedding will be carefree. Mold your wedding party to suit your own needs.